"Love is life. All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. Everything is, everything exists, only because I love."
- Leo Tolstoy
- Leo Tolstoy
Ah, Valentine's Day...
I do love a day where you can call people Shmoopie Pie and Honeycrumb Cupcake Blossom and not be judged for it.
Me and my valentine have not seen each other all day, but in about an hour or so we get to hang out in our pj's and be lazy, which is the very best way to celebrate after a long day!
Valentine's Day should ALWAYS be on a Saturday in my opinion. None of this middle-of-the-week business. Even if it totally undermines the historical significance of the holiday.
I am someone who loves to know the inner workings of just about everything, especially when it comes to humans and all the things we do.
So naturally, one of my favorite topics to research (because I'm never content to just experience things...research is completely necessary) is love.
I spent years actually convinced it didn't exist. I loved my family, I loved my friends, but love love?
Nah. That's the stuff of Hollywood romance fairies.
But after researching, (and okay, actually falling in love), I know that it's a legit thing and I can stop trying to disprove it.
That's always the way, isn't it? The universe loves proving us wrong.
Something I have recently enjoyed looking into are the five phases that romantic relationships pass through.
There are a few good articles on it, but I particularly like this one from the St. Louis Post-Dispatch.
The article is worth a read, but to some it up in about a paragraph each, it states that romantic relationships naturally progress through five stages:
1. Courtship and Infatuation
2. The Power Struggle
3. Re-evaluation and Identity Formation
4. Awareness, transformation, synergy
5. Reconciliation, Acceptance
"Research suggests less than 5 percent of couples make it to this final stage of completion. Each person is able to take responsibility for their needs and also support the other person. There is a great deal of warmth, mutual respect and a balance between autonomy and union. The couple has figured out how to resolve conflicts quickly. They work together as a team, and resentments are few. They have chosen to be with their partner, flaws and all."
So what do you think?
Do you believe all relationships go through these phases?
Have you seen it or experienced it yourself?
Not the most uplifting of all Valentine's Day posts, but I find it totally fascinating!